I slept with her but we didnít have sex.

Over the years Iíve heard this phrase almost as many times as Iíve had hot dinners and when you think about itís quite a strange remark. So thanks to some female input we will look at this from the perspective of the two parties. From a guys point of view I donít think itís something you should brag about. I mean you find someone in Kalico have a few drinks have a bit of a dance maybe have a bit of a snog and then as throwing out time arrives you turn and say ìDo you want to come back to mine for a coffee and by coffee I MEAN coffee and not sex?î Before I continue I would like to say I have never personally used the title statement so Iím using alot of supposition and hearsay. I guess because I write the enquirer, which is the world greatest abstinence aid, Iím not pushing girls away left, right and center. So when I get the chance I will usually grab it with both hands. I mean itís rather like Bill Clinton saying he smoked dope, but didnít inhale. Whatís the point? So you take a girl (or boy) home, settle down on the sofa, have a post coffee cuddle/snog and then suggest you continue into the bedroom. Now at that point you are either going to have sex ñ or not ñ there is no maybe. Is any party really going to say ìLets go to the bedroom but to be honest I donít really fancy you enough to give you one and I canít really be bothered to walk back to my apartmentî without hurting the others feelings.
Of course there is alway an exception to the rule and alcohol be thy name. Inbibe enough of it (and Iím talking about Jimboís birthday levels of booze) and I suppose certain things wonít rise to the occasion. (again something Iíve never had happen). Although by the sunrise the effects should have worn off and I donít know anyone who doesnít like a bit of wholesome morning fucking.
The female perspective would be that the 'suggestion' of going back to someone's apartment for coffee, a DVD and a cuddle is basically about denial. You're definitely up for a shag. But there are obstacles: a) perhaps you don't really fancy the bloke that much but it's got to the point in the season where sex is necessary if not essential b) you've recently shagged one of his mates but decided you prefer him. Suggesting a rampant sex session would be far too forward - you've got a reputation to think about. Instead you suggest dvds, coffee and cuddles and there's the unspoken implicit message that, yes, he's gonna get lucky.
I suppose there's the possibility that you both head back with the full intention of having a raunchy romp but are so knackered out and jaded from skiing and cleaning chalets that you can't muster the energy Either that or you are genuinely in need of a hug. Which is fair enough.
So I would say if anyone says 'I slept with him/her but didn't have sex' they are a liar. Because you can use that excuse just as long as penetration didn't occur right? So you could have done all sorts of dirty things to each other but you didn't 'officially' sleep together.
The only other situation I can imagine this happening is in the unpleasant event of pulling some chap in the dark, fuzzy, drunken safety of Kalicos and then getting him home, where you mysteriously and suddenly sober up - he comes into focus and you realise he is a total minger. You then announce you 'just want to cuddle' and have the infinate pleasure of sleeping in his arms with his erection sticking in your back for the entire night, before you make a swift run for it in the morning!